To the trans people out there: always tell dates that you are trans, first thing. No matter your stance, no matter how you feel about yourself being the gender you have/are transitioning to, there are still many, many people out there who do not believe as you do and will react violently like this when they find out. The vast majority of the time when you tell them up front they will simply say “oh, I’m not into that, bye”. The worst you can expect is the to be angry along the lines of “why did you waste my time?”, but they’ll just leave angry. Never engage in foreplay before telling them. That is when the violence happens. This may not be right in your worldview, it may not be fair. But it is the reality. For your safety, tell any date as early as possible that you are trans.